Keeping the spark alive in your marriage requires intentional effort and commitment. Setting goals together as a couple can help you focus on what truly matters—strengthening your bond, reigniting passion, and having more fun together.
Setting goals in marriage is crucial because it creates a shared vision for your relationship, helping you grow closer and work as a team. Goals give your marriage direction and purpose, ensuring you’re intentional about nurturing your bond rather than letting life’s distractions take over. They also encourage consistent effort, which is essential for maintaining connection, passion, and trust.
When couples set and achieve goals together, they strengthen their relationship and build a sense of accomplishment that deepens intimacy. Whether it’s through shared adventures, improved communication, or prioritizing quality time, setting goals provides a roadmap to a thriving, fulfilling marriage.
These 10 goals are simple yet powerful ways to cultivate deeper connection and joy in your relationship.
1. Daily Physical Touch
Touch is a love language all on its own. Prioritize hugging, kissing, holding hands, and cuddling every single day. Physical connection, even in small ways, releases oxytocin, which strengthens your bond and reduces stress.
2. Do an Adventure Together Monthly
Shared experiences create lasting memories and bring excitement to your relationship. Whether it’s hiking a new trail, exploring a nearby town, or trying an escape room, make it a goal to embark on one adventure together every month.
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3. Schedule an Intimacy Calendar a Month in Advance
Plan ahead to ensure you’re prioritizing physical intimacy. An intimacy calendar helps you both look forward to special moments and ensures you’re carving out time for connection amid busy schedules. Why scheduling sex isn’t as weird as you think!
For many people the concept of scheduling sex goes completely against what we are led to believe from watching the movies. In the movies, both people are ready to go at a moments notice and ALWAYS seem to be in the mood whether morning, afternoon or evening. It’s as if they have nothing better to do. Well… the movies are a fantasy and that is not what reality is for all of us people off the big screen. In real life, couples seldom are both in the mood at the same time and sex often doesn’t happen spontaneously as life is so busy with work, kids and many other things.
Scheduling sex can be an amazing thing for several reasons and after listening to this podcast, you may just find yourself scheduling sex in your relationship for better and more frequent sexual intimacy.
4. Unplug Each Night an Hour Before Bed
Make technology-free time a daily habit by setting aside phones, laptops, and TVs an hour before bed. Use this time to talk, read, or simply enjoy each other’s presence. It’s a small change with a big impact on connection.
5. Build a Shared Bucket List
Sit down and dream together. Create a list of experiences, places, and goals you both want to achieve. From traveling to a dream destination to learning a new hobby as a couple, having a shared vision adds excitement to your marriage. Every couple should create a vision board.
6. Do a Monthly Check-Up in Your Marriage
Take time each month to discuss your relationship. Talk about what’s working, areas for improvement, and your goals for the future. It’s a powerful way to stay aligned and keep communication strong.
7. Laugh Together Daily
Laughter is one of the simplest ways to connect. Share funny stories, watch a comedy, or reminisce about your favorite inside jokes. A little laughter can go a long way in keeping your relationship light and joyful.
8. Surprise Each Other Once a Month
Plan a thoughtful surprise for your spouse at least once a month. It could be as simple as leaving a sweet note, planning a date night, or buying their favorite treat. Surprises remind your spouse they’re cherished and keep the relationship fresh.
9. Attend a Couples Retreat or Getaway Once a Year
Take time away from daily responsibilities to focus solely on each other. A couples retreat or annual getaway can rejuvenate your relationship and help you reconnect on a deeper level.
10. Weekly Date Nights
Make date night a non-negotiable. Whether it’s a fancy dinner out or a cozy night in, prioritize quality time together every week to nurture your bond and keep the romance alive.
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Start Small but Start Now
You don’t need to tackle all these goals at once. Choose one or two to start with and build from there. The key is to make your marriage a priority and stay committed to growing together.
What goals will you set this month to create more passion, fun, and connection in your marriage? You may also enjoy this great podcast episode 328. The Goals You Should Absolutely Set Together For More Passion, Fun And Connection.
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