31 Jan

I grew up in a home where my parents were physically affectionate with each other. Just recently, we spent time with them and my dad was still stealing kisses from my mom. They always kissed each other hello and goodbye.

Since it was always modeled for my brothers and me, it was no surprise to see my brothers kissing their wives before leaving. When I was a teenager, I remember a time when my brother and his wife were fighting a lot. But…even if they had just been in an argument, he would lean down and kiss her before he left. And I just saw that even in the midst of frustration with your spouse, that’s no reason to stop being affectionate. You probably need to do it even more.

Austin and I have been kissing “goodbye” our entire marriage, and it has been very beneficial to our relationship. Even if we’re in a setting where some would say you’re not “supposed” to kiss someone…we do anyways. Why? Because this act was modeled for us and it has had a profound impact on us, so we want to model it for others.

Need other reasons to make kissing your spouse goodbye important? Here are a few things to consider.

1. You Never Know What Will Happen 

Of course, I’m going to start this out with the cliche reason…you just never know what will happen. It is the honest-to-goodness truth, my friends. You do not know if this goodbye will be your last.

I remember when I learned about a friend’s wife suddenly dying at church from an aneurysm. She was fine when they went their separate ways that Sunday morning. But in the middle of Sunday school, she went downhill fast and didn’t make it.

This isn’t a scare tactic to get you to value your spouse, but it is a wake-up call to remember what’s really important in life.

2. Non-Sexual Physical Connection Builds Intimacy 

So many times in our marriages, we can forget that non-sexual physical connection is vital. If the only time you are touching your spouse is during sex, then you’re missing out on building true intimacy.

Even if you’re the kind of person that doesn’t naturally remember to be physically affectionate or struggles with it, you still need physical touch. This is a basic human need. Kissing, hugging, and touching generally reduces depression, relieves anxiety, and helps you feel connected.

3. Kissing is a Great Way to Model a Healthy Marriage to Others 

Kissing your spouse goodbye is a perfect way to show those around you that you are happily married. This is especially important for your children to see. Believe me, they are seeing a great deal of sexual affection being displayed. It is really important that you show them what healthy relationships look like.

Even if it is a bit weird for you to kiss your spouse in front of your children, it really is a good idea for them to know you love each other. They see plenty of people kissing, and often, those people are not committed to one another. 

4. You Will Be Happier 

There are going to be times that you are mad at your spouse. When you make it a habit to always kiss each other before leaving, you will have to put those differences aside. At least for a few moments, your attitude toward your spouse is going to soften.

This is a great way to keep yourself in check in your marriage. When you have physical affection displayed toward each other every couple of hours, you will be happier in your marriage.

5. Just Because You Can 

In all seriousness here, why wouldn’t you kiss the love of your life every single day? Remember when you were dating, and all you could think about was the next time you could kiss them? You married that man or woman for a whole host of reasons, and one of those reasons was because you loved to kiss them.

When you make it a priority to kiss each other goodbye, or goodnight, you won’t have a single day that passes where you haven’t connected physically. I know there will be days when you don’t have the time or energy to be together in an intimate way, but kissing takes a little time and is very effective.

What are your top reasons for kissing your spouse goodbye? Leave me a message in the comments. I would love to hear your thoughts!

Keelie Reason

Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.

This article was reposted and used with permission from Love Hope Adventure.

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