Sex is an important part of any marriage, but over time, it’s not uncommon for couples to experience a decline in their sex life. This can happen due to a variety of reasons, such as stress, work, distractions like social media or family obligations with the kids.
However, it’s important to prioritize your sex life and make an effort to improve it if you want to maintain a happy and healthy relationship. In this blog post, we will discuss some tips and strategies that can help you improve your sex life as a married couple.
Communicate with your spouse
Communication is key when it comes to improving your sex life. Talk to your spouse about what you like and what you don’t like in and out of the bedroom. Share your fantasies and desires with each other. Be honest and open, and encourage your spouse to do the same. By having open and honest communication, you can build trust and intimacy, which can enhance your sexual experience.
We refer to this as discussing your sexpectations as a couple. It is so hard for couples to do and that is why communication is #1 on our list. It is amazing how many couples reach out to us and ask us how to have a better sex life, yet 90% of them respond that they haven’t talked about it or brought it up with their spouse.
How can you fix something, or get better at it if you are not willing to talk about it?
You’re going to love podcast episode 138. Sexpectations In Marriage.. And Why You Need To Talk About Them Together! In this episode we talk about why it is so important to communicate about sexual intimacy and ways to do it!
Spice things up
One of the reasons why couples may experience a decline in their sex life is because of a lack of variety. If you find yourself doing the same things in bed over and over again, it can become monotonous and boring. To spice things up, try something new. Experiment with different positions, try out new sex toys or accessories, or even explore different locations for sex. By adding variety to your sex life, you can keep things exciting and fresh.
That is why we invented the Ultimate Intimacy App! The #1 app for married couples to spice things up in the bedroom.
Connect emotionally
Couples don’t understand how important emotional intimacy is to having good sexual intimacy. They go hand in hand and it is almost impossible to have good meaningful sexual intimacy without having good emotional intimacy as a couple. That is the reason that communication is number 1 on the list.
Part of connecting emotionally is doing date nights and doing the things you did when you were falling in love.
Make time for sex
Between work, family, and other obligations, it can be easy to let your sex life fall by the wayside. However, it’s important to make time for sex and prioritize it in your schedule. Set aside time for intimacy and make it a priority. This can help you maintain a healthy and satisfying sex life, even when you have a lot going on.
For a lot of people, scheduling sex can be a great way to find time for it. There are many benefits of scheduling sex:
- Helps both spouses get physically and mentally prepared
- Solved the question of “when are we going to have sex again”
- Makes it a priority
We also did a podcast episode 104. Why We Have Completely Changed Our Mindset About Scheduling Sex
Focus on foreplay
Foreplay is not only an important part of any sexual experience, but vital part of it, and it can help you and your spouse feel more connected and aroused. Take the time to kiss, touch, and explore each other’s bodies. Experiment with different types of foreplay, such as oral sex or massage, to see what works best for you.
When done right, foreplay can be even more exhilarating than the act of sex itself. Don’t rush it and enjoy it to the fullest extent. Make your goal to drive your spouse crazy!
Take care of your physical and mental health
Your physical and mental health can have a significant impact on your sex life. Make sure you are taking care of yourself by eating a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly. Additionally, mental health issues such as stress, anxiety, and depression can affect your libido and sexual performance. If you are struggling with mental health issues, seek help from a therapist or counselor.
Don’t be afraid to seek professional help If you and your spouse are struggling to improve your sex life on your own. A sex therapist or counselor can help you identify underlying issues that may be affecting your sex life, and provide you with tools and strategies to overcome them.
Break down the barriers
There are so many distractions and barriers that keep couples from having amazing sexual intimacy. We have discussed a few of these already but others include technology, unresolved conflict, kids, different sex drives, desire styles and so many other things. Many times couples don’t even know what the barriers are that are keeping them from being sexually intimate.
A great resource for this is the Ultimate Intimacy Sexual Intimacy Workbook. It covers so many topics and gets you and your spouse discussing and identifying the things that are barriers to your sex life.
Improving your sex life as a married couple takes time, effort, and communication. By prioritizing your intimacy, exploring new things, and taking care of your physical and mental health, you can enhance your sexual experience and strengthen your relationship. Don’t ever underestimate the importance of a healthy sex life and the role it plays in having a happy and fulfilling marriage.
Ultimate Intimacy