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When you think of the word “intimacy,” what comes to mind? For some, it’s holding hands, sharing vulnerable conversations, or cuddling on the couch. For others, it’s about deep, passionate sex that feels safe, connected, and satisfying. The truth is—intimacy in marriage includes all of that. And without it, even the best marriages can begin to feel distant, disconnected, or unfulfilling.
So… how intimate is your marriage really?
Take our quick quiz below to find out, and then keep reading to discover how to create deeper connection emotionally, physically, and sexually.
Why Intimacy Matters in Marriage
Intimacy isn’t a luxury in marriage—it’s a necessity.
Studies show that couples who prioritize physical intimacy report higher levels of marital satisfaction, better communication, and a stronger emotional bond. According to research published in the Journal of Sex Research, couples who have sex at least once a week are significantly happier in their relationships than those who don’t.
But intimacy isn’t just about sex. It’s about:
- Feeling emotionally safe with your spouse
- Knowing you’re desired and pursued
- Making time for meaningful connection, even during busy seasons
- Being able to communicate openly about your needs
When intimacy fades, so does the connection that makes marriage feel like a true partnership. And unfortunately, many couples don’t even realize how disconnected they’ve become—until it feels too late.
We took a poll among our massive audience and asked the question: Is sex a need in marriage and is it important? Check out the results!
The Health Benefits of Sexual Intimacy
Sex in marriage isn’t just good for the relationship—it’s good for your health. Here are some science-backed benefits:
- Reduces stress and anxiety
- Improves heart health and immune function
- Boosts mood and fights depression
- Strengthens your bond through the release of oxytocin (the “love hormone”)
- Improves sleep quality
- Supports a longer life expectancy
And here’s something powerful: research also shows that sexual satisfaction is strongly linked to overall life satisfaction.
So yes, nurturing intimacy with your spouse can literally help you feel better, live longer, and enjoy a more fulfilling life.
Take the Intimacy Quiz
Take this quick quiz to find out if your marriage is getting the sexual and emotional connection it needs to thrive.
Instructions: For each question, choose the answer that best describes your relationship. Be honest—this quiz is for you.
1. How often do you and your spouse have sex?
A) Multiple times a week
B) Once a week
C) A few times a month
D) Once a month or less
2. Do you both initiate sex or does it feel one-sided?
A) We both initiate regularly
B) One of us usually initiates, but it’s mutual overall
C) It’s mostly one-sided
D) No one initiates anymore
3. How satisfied are you (and your spouse) with your sex life?
A) Very satisfied—no complaints
B) Mostly satisfied but room to grow
C) One of us is less satisfied than the other
D) There’s a lot of dissatisfaction or disconnect
4. How connected do you feel emotionally outside the bedroom?
A) Very connected—we talk, share, and support each other
B) Somewhat connected, but life gets in the way
C) Not very connected—emotions feel distant
D) We mostly feel like roommates
5. How comfortable are you talking about sex with your spouse?
A) Super open—we talk about desires, needs, and preferences
B) We talk sometimes, but it could be better
C) It feels awkward or we avoid it
D) We never talk about it
6. How often do you flirt, kiss passionately, or touch affectionately (outside of sex)?
A) Daily
B) A few times a week
C) Occasionally
D) Rarely or never
7. Do you feel desired and pursued by your spouse?
A) Yes, absolutely
B) Most of the time
C) Sometimes, but I wish it was more
D) Not at all
8. Do you and your spouse make time for intimacy, even with busy schedules?
A) Yes, it’s a priority
B) Sometimes—we try
C) Rarely—it often gets pushed aside
D) No—it’s not even on the radar
9. Do you view sex as a way to bond and reconnect emotionally?
A) Yes, it always brings us closer
B) Sometimes, but not always
C) Not really—it feels like a chore
D) We don’t think about it that way
10. When was the last time you tried something new together in the bedroom?
A) This month
B) Within the last 3–6 months
C) Over a year ago
D) I can’t remember
Scoring
Give yourself points based on your answers:
A = 4 points
B = 3 points
C = 2 points
D = 1 point
Total your points: ___ / 40
What Your Score Means
35–40: Intimacy Champions
You’ve made intimacy a real priority in your marriage—emotionally and physically. Keep showing up for each other and finding new ways to connect and grow. You’re doing great!
26–34: Solid, But Room to Grow
You’re doing well, but there’s some space to deepen the connection. Small changes—like flirting more, scheduling intimacy, or trying something new—can reignite your spark.
16–25: Needs Attention
Your intimacy might be running low. Don’t ignore it—this is your cue to have an open, honest conversation and make intimacy something you work on together.
10–15: Danger Zone
Your marriage may be in a season of disconnection. But it’s not too late. Prioritize open communication, take small steps daily to rebuild emotional safety, and use resources to guide you.
If you like, you can download the quiz absolutely free HERE!
Tools to Build Intimacy (from Ultimate Intimacy)
Looking to create deeper, more passionate intimacy in your marriage? We’ve got tools that can help:
- Ultimate Intimacy app with bedroom games, challenges, and conversation starters
- Ultimate Intimacy product line including sensual game cards, massage cream, and lubricants
- Free downloads and resources for emotional and sexual intimacy
- Couple’s communication tools to help break the awkward silence around sex
Do you have a hard time talking about sex with your spouse? The reality is, you’re not alone. A 2017 study by the Journal of Marriage and Family found that nearly 1 in 3 couples reported that they avoid discussing sex altogether. For many spouses, talking about sex can be uncomfortable for a variety of reasons, from fear of rejection to feelings of shame, past negative experiences, or simple awkwardness.
But the truth is, without open communication about sex, couples miss out on deeper emotional and physical connections that could enrich their relationship and help them grow closer. That is why we created the NEW Let’s Talk About Sex Cards!
Final Thoughts
Intimacy is like a flame—it can fade when neglected, but it can also be reignited with the right fuel.
At Ultimate Intimacy, we believe every couple deserves a marriage that feels alive, passionate, and connected. If your quiz results revealed room to grow, don’t be discouraged—be empowered. With a little effort, vulnerability, and the right tools, your marriage can thrive like never before.
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