In popular culture, the notion of “falling in love” or “falling out of love” often romanticizes the idea of love as a passive force beyond our control. However, the truth is far from this romanticized notion.
Love is not something that happens to us; it’s something we actively choose and cultivate through intentional actions and efforts. In essence, love is a verb—an ongoing commitment and a conscious choice to nurture and cherish our spouse.
It is crazy to hear people constantly say “we just fell out of love” like there was nothing they could do about it, or had no control of it.
Why do so many couples fall “out” of love in marriage? We know the divorce rate is near 50% so chances are many couples that are listening to this podcast and feel they have a happy marriage could unfortunately end up in divorce. But that doesn’t need to happen if you understand the reasons this happens and what you can do in your relationship to not let it happen to you.
In this episode Nick and Amy talk with Grant and Stephanie with Forever With Purpose about the main reasons couples fall “out” of love, and what you can do to not let it happen in your marriage.
165. The Reasons Couples Fall “Out” Of Love… And How Not To Let It Happen To You.
Let’s debunk the myth of falling in and out of love and explore seven ways couples can work hard to keep the spark, romance, and passion alive in their marriage.
Choose Love Every Day: Love is a daily choice, not a fleeting emotion. Make a conscious decision to love and prioritize your spouse each day, even when the honeymoon phase fades. Choose kindness, patience, and understanding in your interactions, and let your actions reflect your commitment to your marriage.
Communicate Openly and Honestly: Effective communication is essential for maintaining a strong and healthy marriage. Take the time to communicate openly and honestly with your spouse, sharing your thoughts, feelings, and aspirations. Listen attentively, validate each other’s perspectives, and work together to resolve conflicts peacefully.
Prioritize Quality Time Together: In today’s fast-paced world, quality time together often takes a backseat to other obligations. However, spending quality time with your spouse is crucial for nurturing your connection and fostering intimacy. Set aside dedicated time for meaningful conversations, shared activities, and adventures that strengthen your bond.
Keep the Romance Alive: Romance isn’t reserved for special occasions—it’s an integral part of keeping the spark alive in your marriage. Surprise your spouse with thoughtful gestures, plan romantic dates, and express your affection regularly. Small acts of romance and appreciation go a long way in keeping the flame of passion burning bright.
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Cultivate Mutual Respect and Appreciation: Mutual respect and appreciation form the foundation of a loving and supportive marriage. Take the time to acknowledge and celebrate each other’s strengths, accomplishments, and contributions. Show gratitude for the little things your spouse does, and never take each other for granted.
Embrace Growth and Change Together: Marriage is a journey of growth and evolution, both as individuals and as a couple. Embrace change with an open heart, support each other’s personal development, and evolve together through life’s ups and downs. Cultivate a relationship built on mutual respect, understanding, and acceptance of each other’s growth.
Keep the Passion Alive: Passion is an essential component of a fulfilling marriage, and it requires effort and creativity to keep it alive. Explore new experiences together, prioritize physical intimacy, and reignite the spark by trying new things in the bedroom, and considering intimacy aids (sex toys) to make sexual intimacy even more amazing. Keep the passion burning bright by prioritizing your connection and intimacy with your spouse.
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In conclusion, love is not a passive force that we fall into or out of—it’s an active choice and a continuous commitment to our spouse. By choosing love every day, prioritizing communication, and nurturing your connection through quality time, romance, and mutual respect, you can keep the spark, romance, and passion alive in your marriage. Implement these seven strategies into your relationship, and watch your love for each other grow deeper and stronger with each passing day.
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