05 May

Sexual intimacy is an essential part of any healthy relationship. But, there is a big difference between just having sex and making love. While sex is a physical act that fulfills a physical need, making love involves a deeper emotional connection between two people. It is an intimate experience that connects both the mind and the body, and even the soul.

Making love requires vulnerability, communication, and a focus on creating a deep connection together. It is not just about physical pleasure; it involves sharing your deepest feelings, thoughts, and emotions during the act of lovemaking. In contrast, just having sex is more about stimulation, fulfilling one’s own selfish physical needs, and focusing solely on the end goal of orgasm.

Here are some of the key differences between making love and just having sex:

Making Love:

  • Involves deep and vulnerable expression
  • Requires nonverbal communication of love to your spouse
  • Involves sharing your body, soul, and deep feelings
  • Focuses on your spouses needs and pleasures first
  • Aims for pleasure, love, and deep connection
  • Leaves you feeling fulfilled afterwards
  • Approached with care and tenderness
  • Involves foreplay, touching, kissing, and much affection

Just Having Sex:

  • Focuses on stimulation
  • Involves just sharing your body
  • Focusing on your own needs
  • The goal is orgasm
  • Can leave you feeling empty afterwards
  • Can be careless and rough
  • Involves very little foreplay
  • Very little to no affection

While it is okay to have sex without making love sometimes, focusing on making love can take your relationship to a whole new level. By prioritizing vulnerability, communication, and a deep connection during sexual intimacy, couples can experience a bond and closeness that strengthens their relationship.

Here are some tips on how to make love and not just have sex:

  1. Take your time and slow it down. Don’t be in a hurry. Make the goal to focus on your spouses needs and the journey, including foreplay, not just the end result.
  2. Talk and communicate your deepest desires, fantasies, and sexual likes with your spouse, and listen to theirs.
  3. Make more eye contact during lovemaking.
  4. Express verbally to your spouse how much you love them. Tell them how beautiful or handsome they are and express your feelings to them.
  5. Be more passionate (but gentle) while making love.
  6. Use your five senses to connect deeper. Touch and caress each other, gently kiss each other’s lips, cheeks, and other areas, cuddle, and share other little gestures to add to the romance.
  7. After making love, cuddle and talk with each other.

It’s essential to answer these questions honestly and discuss them with your spouse:

  • How often do we prioritize making love over just having sex?
  • Do we communicate our desires and needs to each other before and during sexual intimacy?
  • Do we take our time and focus on creating a deeper connection during sexual intimacy, or do we rush towards orgasm?
  • How can we incorporate more passion, tenderness, and affection into our lovemaking?
  • How can we deepen our emotional connection during sexual intimacy, beyond just physical pleasure?

Making love requires vulnerability, communication, and a focus on creating a deep connection with your spouse. By prioritizing these aspects, couples can experience a fulfilling and emotionally satisfying sexual experience that strengthens their relationship. So, the next time you’re considering sexual intimacy, try making love instead of just having sex, and see how it can deepen your connection with together.

Here is another great article you might enjoy: Sex Can Gauge The Temperature Of Your Marriage

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