As a married couple, we know firsthand that the holiday season can either bring you closer together.. or pull you apart with all the stresses. With all the busyness of life, it’s easy to forget to prioritize each other. But here’s the thing: love isn’t just a feeling—it’s an action. Love means time, effort, and intention.
When you show up for your spouse emotionally and sexually, you’re showing them that they are a priority, that they are deeply loved. That’s why this holiday season, we’ve come up with a list of five gifts that will help you connect on a deeper level.
These gift ideas don’t just give the appearance of love; they are designed to create real moments of intimacy and connection. Because at the end of the day, love is about action—and what better way to show it than with a gift that says, “You matter to me”?
This year, we want to share something that’s really worked for us: The Couples Intimacy Box. This includes the first 3 gift ideas we mention below. It’s packed with unique gifts that do more than just sit in the drawer—they’ve helped us strengthen our bond in a way that’s brought us even closer.
If you’re like us, you know how important it is to nurture both emotional and physical intimacy in marriage. The truth is, one can’t thrive without the other. Emotional intimacy builds the trust and safety needed for an open, exciting physical connection, and when you’re physically connected, that sense of closeness spills over into the emotional side.
This bundle is a perfect way to ignite both. Here’s how these five gifts have made a huge difference in our marriage—and how they can do the same for yours.
The entire Couples Intimacy Box has been such a powerful tool for us. It’s like this little treasure trove of surprises that help us connect on a deeper level. Inside the box, everything is geared toward enhancing both emotional and physical intimacy. The different items—from the vibrating ring to the massage cream—create moments where we can explore each other’s needs, communicate openly, and really enjoy being with each other.
This box is not just a gift you use once and forget about; it’s an experience that keeps bringing us back to each other. It’s playful, it’s intimate, and most importantly, it’s something we share, which makes it even more special.
1. The Vibrating Ring for Her Pleasure
We’ll start with the one that might catch your eye first: the vibrating ring. Let’s just say it’s more than just a fun toy; it’s a tool for communication and connection. When we started using it, it sparked conversations we hadn’t had before—about what makes her feel good, what we both enjoy, and how we can focus on each other’s pleasure.
Giving her something specifically designed for her pleasure is an act of love and care. It tells her, “I want you to enjoy this as much as I do.” The conversations that followed deepened our emotional connection, and let’s be real—when emotional intimacy is strong, the physical connection gets even better.
2. Massage Cream That’s Also a Lubricant
This one surprised us with how much it added to our relationship. The Couples Intimacy Box comes with an all-in-one body butter that doubles as a lubricant, and trust us, it’s worth every penny. There’s something so intimate about giving your spouse a massage, especially when you use a cream that not only relaxes them but also sets the stage for something more.
We love using it at the end of a long day when we’re both stressed and need to unwind. Massaging each other with this cream brings us back to a place of focus and presence. It’s a simple act that says, “I’m here for you, let me take care of you.” And when you transition from massage to something more, the physical intimacy that follows feels natural and connected.
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3. Coupon Book for Emotional and Sexual Intimacy
If you’re looking for a way to keep things fun and spontaneous throughout the year, the Couples Coupon Book is your go-to. It’s filled with creative ideas that span both emotional and sexual intimacy. Some of the coupons are for things like taking over a chore your spouse hates or planning a surprise date night, while others might involve more intimate promises.
What we love most about this book is that it helps us think about each other’s needs outside of our typical routine. Giving your spouse a coupon to redeem for something special is a reminder that you’re still excited to surprise and care for them. Plus, it’s a way to keep things playful and light, which is so important for a lasting connection. Nick just asks for this every Christmas still :).
Why Emotional and Sexual Intimacy Go Hand-in-Hand
After years of marriage, we’ve learned that the key to a healthy and happy relationship is finding a balance between emotional and sexual intimacy. Emotional intimacy is what makes us feel safe, loved, and secure in our relationship, while sexual intimacy is the expression of that closeness.
When one is out of balance, the other struggles to thrive. That’s why these gifts have been so special for us—they create opportunities for both kinds of intimacy to grow.
When we take time to focus on each other emotionally, whether it’s through a simple massage or talking openly about what we want in the bedroom, we’re showing that we value the relationship. And when we feel valued emotionally, the physical side of things becomes more exciting, more connected, and more meaningful.
Spice Up Your Holidays with a Focus on Connection
So, this holiday season, we encourage you to think beyond the typical gifts. Sure, a new gadget or a cozy sweater is nice, but giving your spouse something that deepens your connection is priceless. The Couples Intimacy Box is more than just a gift—it’s an investment in your relationship.
It’s a reminder that no matter how busy life gets, taking time to nurture your emotional and sexual intimacy is essential. And trust us, when both of those are strong, everything else in your marriage feels better too.
From playful new ideas in the bedroom to thoughtful gestures that show your love and care, these gifts will help you connect in ways that will last far beyond the holiday season. So, why not spice up your holidays with something meaningful, fun, and intimate?
After all, the best gift you can give each other is the gift of a stronger, closer marriage. Happy holidays!
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4. The Non-Graphic Card Deck for Bedroom Positions
Let’s be honest—sometimes even the most connected couples need a little inspiration to keep things fresh. The card deck of non-graphic bedroom positions is a simple yet powerful tool. What’s great about this deck is that it encourages you to step out of your comfort zone in a fun, non-intimidating way.
You don’t have to worry about anything graphic or over-the-top—just thoughtful ideas to spark physical intimacy. What we’ve found is that flipping through these cards opens the door to important conversations about what we enjoy, what we’re curious about, and how we can continue to grow together in our physical relationship.
It’s amazing how something so simple can reignite that spark and build on the emotional connection we’ve already established.
5. Scratch-Off Cards for Bedroom Fun
The scratch-off cards have been one of the most exciting additions to our intimacy routine. These cards are all about anticipation and fun. You can hand one to your spouse and scratch off something playful like a new position, a sensual massage, or even an adventurous idea for the bedroom.
What we love most about these cards is that they help us initiate intimacy in a fun, low-pressure way. Whether it’s a small act like giving a foot massage or something a little spicier, the act of scratching off the card builds excitement for what’s to come.
It’s a great way to add a little variety and anticipation to your intimate moments while keeping things playful and connected.
If you’re ready to spice up your holidays and deepen the emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage, check out the Couples Intimacy Box and other great gifts at shop.ultimateintimacy.com.
You’ll find everything you need to make this season the most meaningful one yet for you and your spouse! These are the gifts that keep on giving, and time and effort are truly the most meaningful gift you can give your spouse!
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