A thriving marriage isn’t just about emotional connection and shared responsibilities—it’s also about keeping the spark alive in the bedroom. But as life gets busy, intimacy sometimes takes a backseat.
If you and your spouse are looking to reignite that passion, these top 10 tricks will help you take things to the next level. Get ready to create amazing experiences and deepen your connection both emotionally and physically.
1. Communicate Openly About Desires
The foundation of great intimacy is open communication. Talk to your spouse about what you like and don’t like in the bedroom. It’s easy to assume what your spouse enjoys, but asking questions can lead to a deeper connection and better experiences. Be open, listen, and express your desires without judgment.
If you feel like you have a hard time talking about your desires, download the Ultimate Intimacy App and use the “Intimate” Conversation Starters!
Pro tip: Set aside time for an intimate conversation about your fantasies, boundaries, and what makes you feel closest.
2. Prioritize Emotional Intimacy
Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy are closely linked, especially for women. Building trust, affection, and emotional safety during the day can make a world of difference at night. Spend time connecting emotionally, showing appreciation, and understanding each other’s love languages.
Try going on a walk in the evening or doing more date nights! When you connect emotionally, you are going to have better sexual intimacy.
Check out this article titled: Good Emotional Intimacy Keeps You From Having Bad Sexual Intimacy.
Pro tip: A quick hug, meaningful compliment, or surprise “I love you” text can set the stage for later.
3. Focus on Foreplay
Foreplay isn’t just a prelude; for many, it’s a key part of the experience. Taking time to explore each other’s bodies, give lingering kisses, and indulge in slow touch builds anticipation and arousal. Foreplay also allows both spouses to get mentally and physically prepared for more intimate moments.
For some reason, society is teaching us that if a spouse is not in the mood for sex, then that is it. What ever happened to allowing your spouse to get you in the mood through foreplay? That is the whole purpose of foreplay is to get a spouse that is not in the mood in the mood!
We have some great foreplay games, ideas, and intimate products to get you in the mood quickly and in a fun way!
Pro tip: Explore new kinds of foreplay—whether it’s a massage, using scented oils, or trying a feather to heighten the experience.
4. Explore the Five Senses
Stimulating all five senses can turn a good experience into a great one. Sight, smell, touch, taste, and sound all play a role in creating a more immersive and memorable experience. Think candlelight, soft music, flavored lubes, and sensual textures like silk sheets or a cozy blanket.
Pro tip: Incorporate scented candles, massage oils, or even blindfolds to heighten sensory awareness.
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5. Try New Positions and Ideas
Routine can lead to boredom in the bedroom. To spice things up, try new positions or activities you’ve never done before. The key is to step out of your comfort zone together, experiment with what feels good, and keep the experience fun.
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Pro tip: Download the Ultimate Intimacy app with position ideas, or create a fun “position scratch-off” card to explore something new together.
6. Practice Aftercare
Aftercare is essential for emotional and physical intimacy after sex. Whether it’s cuddling, talking, or taking a shower together, these small acts can make both spouses feel loved and cared for after the experience.
Pro tip: Spend a few moments after sex just holding each other and talking about how you feel—it deepens your bond and ensures you both feel appreciated.
7. Take Your Time
Being amazing in the bedroom isn’t about rushing. Taking your time allows for a more fulfilling experience, especially for women who often need longer to fully engage. Let go of the idea that sex has to be quick or one-sided—focus on slow, deliberate touch and extended moments of connection.
Pro tip: Spend time focusing on each other’s bodies and reactions, savoring the build-up rather than hurrying to the end.
8. Make It Fun
Don’t forget that intimacy can be fun! Playful teasing, laughter, and lighthearted moments can relieve pressure and make the experience more enjoyable. The more relaxed you both feel, the better the connection will be.
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Pro tip: Use games or playful teasing to build excitement. Play a game of intimate truth or dare, or set up a fun challenge with your spouse in the Ultimate Intimacy App!
9. Get in the Right Mindset
Sexual intimacy is not just physical—it’s mental, too. A positive mindset and emotional readiness are key to enjoying the moment fully. If stress or distractions get in the way, take a few moments to relax before getting intimate. You can practice mindfulness, deep breathing, or even take a quick shower to unwind.
Pro tip: Before heading to the bedroom, take time to clear your mind—whether that’s through meditation, a warm bath, or listening to relaxing music.
10. Stay Connected Outside the Bedroom
How you treat each other outside the bedroom greatly affects what happens inside. Small gestures of love, acts of service, or just being emotionally present throughout the day build connection. The stronger your bond outside the bedroom, the more intimate your time together will feel.
Pro tip: Surprise your spouse with thoughtful acts—a note, a favorite treat, or taking on a chore to lighten their load. These gestures show your love and set the mood for intimacy later.
We hope these 10 things can make your sexual intimacy amazing!!
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