If you’ve ever felt like you and your spouse are on different pages when it comes to intimacy, or struggled with conversations about what each of you needs in and out of the bedroom, there’s a new book out that might just change everything for your relationship.
Introducing Let’s Talk About Sex: 20 Things Christian Husbands and Wives Wish Their Spouse Knew (Or Would Do), But Don’t Know How To Tell You, co-authored by Nate and Whitson and Amy Mckinlay.
Also check out the two podcast episodes about this book discussing each chapter in Let’s Talk About Sex.
This book dives deep into the intimacy struggles many couples face and provides practical, honest, and often eye-opening insights that can help transform the emotional and physical connection between you and your spouse.
In the book, Amy and Nate open up about their own experiences, why they felt compelled to write this book, and how the topics they discuss can help couples strengthen their marriages, not just in the bedroom but in all aspects of their relationship.
Let’s take a look at some of the powerful topics they cover—specifically, the ones Amy tackles, which focus on what wives wish their husbands understood about intimacy.
Her Mind Is the Biggest Sex Organ:
Why Emotional Connection Is Everything for a Wife’s Desire.
Amy opens the conversation with an often overlooked truth: a wife’s emotional connection is the key to unlocking her sexual desire. It’s not just about the physical act—it’s about feeling loved, secure, and emotionally connected.
Understanding how important emotional intimacy is for a wife can drastically shift the way husbands approach their relationship. Amy explains that when a wife feels emotionally connected to her husband, her desire for physical intimacy skyrockets. This chapter breaks down the reasons why emotional connection can be the foundation of a satisfying sexual relationship.
Break Down the Barriers: How Past Experiences, Stress, and Insecurities Impact Intimacy
Many couples struggle to connect because past trauma, stress, or insecurities get in the way. Amy discusses how these emotional barriers can manifest in the bedroom and how couples can work through them.
Whether it’s unresolved issues from past relationships or the daily pressures of life, Amy encourages couples to approach these challenges together with empathy and patience. She offers strategies for breaking down these walls to foster a deeper, more intimate connection.
Put Her First, Win Big! Why Prioritizing Her Pleasure Changes Everything
In this chapter, Amy shares a truth that might surprise some husbands: when you prioritize your wife’s pleasure in the bedroom, it benefits both of you.
Many husbands may think that taking the lead in intimacy is all about their own needs, but Amy reveals how focusing on her pleasure can lead to a more satisfying experience for both partners. She explains how this mindset shift can transform a marriage, creating a deeper bond and improving overall satisfaction.
Different Drives? No Biggie: How to Navigate Mismatched Libidos Without Frustration
A common issue in many marriages is mismatched libidos, but Amy reassures couples that it doesn’t have to be a source of frustration. She explains that understanding and patience are key in navigating this challenge.
Amy discusses how couples can find a rhythm that works for both partners and maintain intimacy even when desires don’t perfectly align. This chapter provides helpful insights for balancing these differences and finding compromise without causing resentment.
The Magic Button: What Every Husband Needs to Understand About His Wife’s Body
In this chapter, Amy unpacks one of the most important aspects of sexual intimacy: understanding your wife’s body, primarily the clitoris. She shares the physical and emotional components that make sex pleasurable for women, and how husbands can learn to tune into their wife’s cues.
It’s all about knowing what she enjoys, communicating openly, and being present during intimacy to create a more fulfilling experience for both spouses.
Talk It Out, Spice It Up: The Power of Communication in Building a Passionate Marriage
If there’s one thing every marriage needs, it’s communication. Amy emphasizes how essential it is for couples to talk openly about their desires, needs, and boundaries. This chapter explores how communication not only strengthens emotional intimacy but also spices up physical intimacy.
When couples are able to share openly and honestly, they create a safe space for exploring new ways to connect and enjoy each other.
What is OK and Not OK in the Bedroom
The book also tackles a sensitive yet important subject—what is okay and not okay in the bedroom for Christian couples. They discuss the importance of mutual respect, setting boundaries, and ensuring that both spouses feel comfortable and safe in their sexual relationship.
This chapter provides valuable guidance for couples looking to navigate their sexual relationship in a way that honors both their individual needs and their faith.
He Wants You to Want It: A Husband Wants His Wife to Enjoy Sex!
They dive into the heartfelt truth that many husbands desire nothing more than for their wives to enjoy sex. Often, wives may feel hesitant or unsure about intimacy, but understanding that your husband wants to see you happy and fulfilled can change the dynamic of your relationship.
This chapter encourages wives to communicate their desires and to remember that their enjoyment is just as important to their husbands.
Let’s Talk About Sex is more than just a book about sex—it’s about building a deeper connection, emotional intimacy, and understanding between husband and wife. With practical advice and candid conversations, Amy and Nate have created a resource that can help transform your marriage, not only in the bedroom but in every aspect of your relationship.
Whether you’re newlyweds or have been married for years, this book offers valuable insights that can help both spouses feel more understood and connected. If you’ve ever found it difficult to talk about intimacy, or if you’re simply looking to improve your connection, this book is a must-read.
So, if you’re ready to start an honest and open conversation about intimacy with your spouse, pick up a copy of Let’s Talk About Sex and begin the journey toward a deeper, more passionate marriage today!
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