Would you love to improve your sex life starting today? Most people would say yes to this question. I recently heard a YouTube video where a sex therapist shared how simply approaching sex in a different way could transform your sexual intimacy. I thought the video was spot on and sent to Amy to get her opinion. Did she agree with me? Find out in our podcast episode 🙂
Most people, at some point, feel that their sex life could be much better. In fact, a recent major survey that was conducted according to the expert giving the speech, it revealed that over two-thirds of respondents believe that their overall quality of life would improve if their sex life improved.
In a poll we did with our audience, 92% said sex played an important role in their happiness!
Do those resonate with you?
It’s not surprising if it does—science supports the idea that regular sexual activity with our spouse benefits both our physical and mental health. Beyond that, consider the skills we develop through regular, satisfying sex: communication, creativity, empathy, generosity, vulnerability, trust, and so much more.
In this video, she shared how treating or approaching sex like a hobby can be a very powerful way to transform your sex life.
Why You Should Reframe Sex As A Hobby
One powerful way to enhance your sex life is to approach it like a favorite hobby. This might sound unconventional, but hear me out. Think about sex as if it were tennis, but without the competitive aspect.
Imagine you want to play better tennis more often with your spouse. What would you do? You’d talk about tennis both on and off the court with each other. You’d pull out your calendars and schedule time to play. You’d would make it a priority. You’d be eager to learn more—perhaps investing in lessons, watching tutorials, or reading about it. You’d be curious about new techniques and might experiment with different types of tennis gear.
Sex is no different, we should be open and willing to try new things, and intimacy aides and sex toys can transform sexual intimacy for many people! The statistics show that over 80% of women cannot have an orgasm from intercourse alone… They need some help! if you are one of them, just click on the picture below for more information!
Some days, you’d want a long, intense match; other days, just a quick, fun session. If a physical issue stopped you from playing such as an injury, you’d see a specialist, eager to get back on the court as soon as possible. You’d agree that the most important thing is that you both enjoy it, and soon enough, you’d be playing better tennis more often together! Many of us do this with other hobbies in our life, so why not approach sex that way?
This is how most of us approach a hobby, but it’s very different from how most of us approach sex.
The All To Common Approach To Sex
Most of us rarely (if ever) talk about sex with our spouse. We don’t schedule it, hoping instead that the desire will spontaneously arise.. which almost NEVER happens. We often don’t educate ourselves on the subject, and much of what we were taught about sex when we were younger focused on what could go wrong, or we were taught that it was bad.
If a physical problem arises, we’re often too embarrassed to see a doctor, and we might not even tell our spouse. Instead, we might avoid sex altogether or just pretend to enjoy it (fake it). When we do have sex, it is often the same thing we have done year after year.
So imagine if we treated tennis like that—how quickly we’d get bored. It’s no wonder many of us aren’t having or enjoying sex as much as we’d like.
Let’s Change the Approach To Sex
What if we started to approach sex like a hobby instead? Let’s talk about it, especially with our spouse. Let’s pull out our calendars and get excited about planning it. This isn’t an admission of failure; it’s a positive, intentional act that acknowledges sex as an important part of our busy lives.
Let’s educate ourselves. Search for sex-related apps such as the Ultimate Intimacy App, podcasts, books, or other things that can educate you and make it much more enjoyable. Did you know that over 800,000 couples looking to improve their sex life have downloaded the Ultimate Intimacy App and give it a 4.8/5 star rating? Find out what it can do for you and download for free today!
Sign up for an online course or order a marriage workbook. You’ll be amazed at what’s out there. Always check in with your spouse—what do you both feel like today? A long, intense session or a quick bit of fun? And let’s not always leave sex for the last thing at night! You wouldn’t play your best tennis at the end of the day when you are worn out.
Why Reframing Sex Benefits Everyone
Reframing sex as a hobby works no matter your age, gender, or current level of experience. It gives hope that even when life is genuinely busy—like when you’re raising a young family—you can and will return to it.
This approach opens up the conversation around sex, helping to remove shame and secrecy and encouraging us to joyfully seek pleasure while practicing skills like communication, creativity, and empathy. These are the same skills that help build stronger marriages and communities.
So, how would your life change if you started thinking about sex in this way? You should at least give it a try and see what happens. You might just find that your new favorite hobby becomes sex.
This article was inspired from watching this video. View the video HERE
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