In marriage, couples often find themselves facing tough questions and decisions that can shape the course of their relationship. From matters of intimacy to finances, family dynamics, and beyond, navigating these decisions can be challenging.
However, there’s one simple yet powerful question that can serve as a guiding light through even the toughest choices: “Does it bring you closer together as a couple?”
In a recent podcast episode (81), we explored the profound impact of this question on every aspect of marriage, from emotional and sexual intimacy to shared hobbies, family dynamics, and beyond. Here, we go deeper into the importance of asking yourself this question and how it can help you make decisions that strengthen your bond and deepen your connection with your spouse.
The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test Question
“Does it bring you closer together as a couple?” This deceptively simple question serves as a litmus test for every decision you face in your marriage. Whether it’s introducing toys into the bedroom, navigating family conflicts, or making financial decisions, asking yourself this question can provide clarity and insight into the impact of your choices on your relationship.
Applying the Question to Every Aspect of Your Marriage
From emotional intimacy to sexual intimacy, hobbies, family dynamics, and finances, the question “Does it bring you closer together as a couple?” can be applied to every aspect of your marriage. By considering the potential impact of your decisions on your connection with your spouse, you can make choices that nurture and strengthen your bond.
The Power of Intentional Decision-Making
Intentionality is key in marriage, and asking yourself this question encourages deliberate, thoughtful decision-making that prioritizes the health and happiness of your relationship. Rather than acting impulsively or reactively, consider the long-term implications of your choices and whether they contribute to a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your spouse.
Examples of Applying the Question
Introducing Toys into the Bedroom: Before incorporating toys into your intimate life, ask yourself whether it enhances mutual pleasure, communication, and intimacy between you and your spouse.
Navigating Family Conflicts: When faced with conflicts involving extended family, consider whether your response promotes unity, understanding, and support within your marriage.
Making Financial Decisions: Before making significant financial decisions, consider whether they align with your shared goals, values, and priorities as a couple, and whether they contribute to a sense of security and partnership in your relationship.
Conclusion: Strengthening Your Bond Through Intentional Choices
Asking yourself the question “Does it bring you closer together as a couple?” empowers you to make intentional choices that prioritize the health and happiness of your marriage. So, dare to ask yourself this question in every aspect of your marriage, and watch as your bond grows stronger, your love deeper, and your relationship more resilient with each passing day.
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