24 Oct

The dynamics of sexual intimacy between couples can often be a complex terrain to navigate. Men and women may approach this aspect of their relationship differently, leading to misunderstandings and unmet expectations.

In this article, we’re diving into the insights that wives wish their husbands knew about sex, hoping to bridge the gap and foster a deeper connection between spouses.

Listen to podcast episode: 173. Husbands… Here Are The Things Your Wife Wants You To Know When It Comes To Sex.

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive into “The things your wife wants you to know when it comes to sex.

Husbands often tell us they have no idea what their wife wants (and sometime the wife doesn’t even know what she wants).  For the men feeling this way, this podcast episode will help you understand what your wives want when it comes to sex as we share many answers from our poll we took from many of the wives that do want to have better sexual intimacy. 

Emotional and Spiritual Connection

For women, sex is not just a physical act; it’s a way to connect emotionally and spiritually with their husband’s. To set the mood, try engaging in meaningful conversations and expressing your love and appreciation for her. Emotional connection can pave the way for physical intimacy, making the experience more fulfilling for both of you.


Contrary to stereotypes, many women love it when their husbands initiate sex. Taking the lead in the bedroom can make your wife feel desired and wanted. So, don’t hesitate to show your appreciation and affection by taking the first step.


Unlike men, women often require more time to get in the mood. Patience is key. Start the romance early in the day with flirty texts, love notes, or small gestures that show your affection. By evening, your efforts will likely have her eagerly anticipating intimate moments.

Variety and Communication

Women, like men, can get bored in the bedroom if things become too predictable. It’s essential to keep the spark alive by exploring new experiences and addressing her desires. Encourage open and honest conversations about your sexual fantasies and preferences to keep the excitement alive.

It is vital for couples to talk about their sexpectations together.

The Ultimate Intimacy App

If you’re looking for creative ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, consider checking out the Ultimate Intimacy App. This free app offers a wealth of suggestions and activities designed to enhance your intimate relationship. It can be downloaded from Google Play or the App Store.

Be Prepared

Many wives wish their husbands were better prepared for sex. Using lubricant can enhance the experience for both partners. In a study, 90% of women found sex more pleasurable and comfortable when using lubrication. So, consider introducing it into your intimate moments.

Be Unselfish

To deepen the connection, shift your focus from your needs to hers. Show your love and care by prioritizing her desires and needs in the bedroom. By doing so, you’ll not only strengthen your emotional bond but also make intimacy more enjoyable for both of you.

Handling Rejection

When your wife says no to sex, it’s crucial not to take it personally. There are various reasons why she might not be in the mood, and it doesn’t necessarily reflect her feelings for you. Continue pursuing her and making her feel cherished, even when intimacy isn’t on the table.


Understanding what wives wish their husbands knew about sex is a significant step toward fostering a deeper, more fulfilling connection in your relationship. By acknowledging the emotional, spiritual, and physical aspects of intimacy, initiating sex, practicing patience, and maintaining open communication, you can create “Ultimate Intimacy” in your marriage.

Remember that the journey toward a more satisfying sex life is a shared one, built on love, trust, and mutual respect.

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