Many couples wonder why their sex life isn’t like what they see on tv, or in the movies and compare their marriage to things that are not realistic. Couples have myths about sex that keep them from having the “Ultimate Intimacy” in their marriage that they deserve to have. In this article we will discuss some of these myths and offer solutions to help you find more sexual enjoyment (and frequency) in your marriage.
Sexual intimacy is an integral part of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. However, many couples struggle to maintain a satisfying frequency and experience in their sexual lives. In this light-hearted article, we will debunk seven common myths that often hinder couples from enjoying more frequent and fulfilling sexual intimacy. So, let’s dive in and uncover the truth behind these misconceptions!
Myth 1: You always have to be in the mood to have sex
Fact: Contrary to popular belief, you don’t always have to be in the mood to have sex. While desire can naturally ebb and flow, it’s important to remember that sexual intimacy can be sparked by connection, communication, and intimacy-building activities. Sometimes, getting started can lead to finding that desire along the way.
What in the world happened to foreplay? The whole purpose of foreplay is to get in the mood for sex when you are not in the mood.
For Amy and I, she is a very low desire spouse, and I am a high desire spouse but we have frequent sexual intimacy because of foreplay and being able to put her in the mood. If every couple is just waiting for each other to get in the mood to have sex, it won’t happen.
Here is a great podcast talking about foreplay and the importance of it in your marriage. 133. All About Foreplay… Why It’s So Important And The Best Tips To Implement
Myth 2: You have to be good at it
Fact: Let’s set the record straight—sexual intimacy is not a performance. It’s not about being a master of acrobatic positions or having flawless technique. What truly matters is the emotional and physical connection between the two of you.
By focusing on open communication, exploration, and discovering what brings pleasure to both individuals, couples can create a fulfilling sexual experience together.
The more you practice sex, the better you will become at it and figure out what you and your spouse enjoy and don’t enjoy. Don’t use the excuse that you have to be good at it to enjoy it. Let’s be honest, must of us have no idea what we are doing anyway 🙂
Myth 3: Sex always has to be amazing
Fact: While incredible sexual encounters are undoubtedly enjoyable, it’s unrealistic to expect mind-blowing experiences every single time. Sexual intimacy is a journey of exploration and learning with your spouse.
Embrace the fact that some encounters will be more passionate than others, and remember that even moments of vulnerability and tenderness can create a deeper connection.
Sex doesn’t always have to be mind blowing or amazing. The fact that you are connecting with each other on a deeper level and being intimate together is what matters most.
Myth 4: It has to be like what you see in the movies
Fact: Hollywood movies often depict unrealistic and exaggerated portrayals of sex. Don’t fall into the trap of comparing your intimate moments to what you see on the big screen. Real-life sexual experiences are diverse, personal, and unique to each couple. Embrace your own journey and discover what works best for you and your spouse.
There is a reasons they are called actors, because they are acting (or pretending). If you are frustrated because your sex life isn’t like what you see on tv or in the movies (both spouses wanting it all the time), don’t be, because what you see is not real.
Don’t compare your sex life (or expectations) to anyone else. Find out what works for you in your marriage as each of you are unique.
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Myth 5: Quantity matters more than quality
Fact: The number of sexual encounters isn’t the sole indicator of satisfaction or fulfillment. Quality matters just as much, if not more, than quantity. Focusing on the emotional connection, intimacy, and pleasure shared during each encounter can lead to a more fulfilling sexual relationship.
Myth 6: Your spouse should instinctively know what you want
Fact: Mind-reading is not a prerequisite for great sex. Open and honest communication is key to discovering each other’s desires, preferences, and boundaries.
Don’t be afraid to express your needs and listen to your spouses desires, fostering a safe and judgment-free environment for exploration and experimentation.
Myth 7: Sexual intimacy declines with age or time in a relationship
Fact: While it’s true that the intensity and frequency of sexual encounters may naturally evolve over time, passionate and fulfilling sexual intimacy can be maintained throughout a long-term relationship.
As couples grow together, they have the opportunity to deepen their understanding, explore new desires, and foster a deeper emotional connection.
You can also check out this great podcast: 7 Myths That Keep Couples From Having More Frequent And Fulfilling Sexual Intimacy
By debunking these common myths surrounding sexual intimacy, couples can embrace a more realistic and fulfilling perspective on their sexual relationship. Remember, open communication, a focus on emotional connection, and a willingness to explore and adapt are the keys to fostering more frequent and satisfying sexual encounters.
Let go of unrealistic expectations and enjoy the unique and beautiful journey of sexual intimacy with your spouse.
If you feel like there are other barriers that are keeping you from having the sexual intimacy you desire then you need to get the Sexual Intimacy Marriage Workbook! This workbook covers all the barriers and things that get in the way of couples having amazing sexual intimacy. Check it out by clicking on the picture below.