07 Sep

Maintaining a healthy sexual connection is essential for the success of any romantic relationship. However, many couples experience a decline in sexual intimacy at some point in their relationship.

Let’s delve into the most common reasons behind this issue, drawing insights from a podcast discussion on the topic. Understanding these reasons can help couples identify the challenges they face and work together to rekindle the passion in their relationship.

If you want to listen to the podcast episode 171. Exposing The Most Common Reasons Couples Stop Having Sexual Intimacy

Low Desire Spouse Dominance

The podcast hosts kick off by highlighting a prevalent reason for a decline in sexual intimacy: the dominance of the spouse with lower sexual desire. When one spouse consistently turns down sexual advances from the other, it can lead to feelings of rejection and frustration for the other. This can strain the overall sexual connection between a couple and potentially lead to a decrease in sexual frequency.

Distractions: The Mind’s Enemy

Modern life is full of distractions, with technology often at the forefront. Technology addiction can significantly impact a couple’s sexual intimacy, with phones and gadgets taking precedence over physical connection.

In such cases, it’s important to prioritize spending quality, device-free time together to rebuild the emotional and physical bond. We have done several articles and podcast on this subject as it is a huge detriment in marriages. Here is a great one titled: Yes, Social Media Really Can Lead To Divorce? Here’s How.

Lack of Emotional Intimacy

While emotional intimacy is essential for fostering a deep connection, sexual intimacy can also enhance emotional closeness. Couples are encouraged to communicate openly about their emotional needs and work together to create an environment that nurtures both emotional and sexual connections.

We often talk about how emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy go hand in hand. When the emotional intimacy is lacking, most women aren’t going to want to connect sexually. And as a spouse withdrawals sexually, then the other withdraws emotionally. It is a horrible game that is played in many marriages where no one wins. We talk about this in episode 116. Is This Toxic Emotional And Sexual Intimacy Game Being Played In Your Marriage?

Stress and Anxiety

Stress is a common modern-day challenge that can significantly affect sexual intimacy. Stress can affect men and women differently. Some men may find that sexual intimacy provides them with stress relief, while some women may experience a decrease in libido due to stress. This imbalance can cause a lot of issues.

Finding ways to manage stress together as a couple, whether through relaxation techniques, hobbies, or quality time, can help create a more conducive environment for intimacy.

Boredom and Routine

Boredom can creep into any relationship, leading to a decline in sexual intimacy. It is important to keep things fund and exciting in the bedroom by trying new activities, experimenting with different approaches, and exploring new fantasies together.

One of the best tools that have helped over 650,000 couples re ignite the passion, fun and excitement in the bedroom is the Ultimate Intimacy App! The app has hundreds on non graphic positions (iPhone only), bedroom games, resource articles, sex techniques and so much more! You can download the app for free in both Google Play and the App Store.

Rejection and Punishment

Rejection, whether sexual or emotional, can become a vicious cycle. Consistent rejection can discourage a spouse from initiating intimacy altogether, leading to a lack of sexual connection. Additionally, using sex as a form of punishment can create an unhealthy dynamic in the relationship. Open communication and a willingness to forgive are essential to overcoming this challenge.

Check out this great article titled: Sexual Rejection: How Your Husband Really Feels. This article can obviously apply to women also dealing with sexual rejection.

Self-Esteem and Body Image

Self-esteem and body image has a huge impact on sexual intimacy. Feelings of low self-confidence can hinder one’s ability to engage fully in sexual encounters. Spouses that find each other attractive and are often more accepting of physical changes have much better sex than those with negative self image.


Sexual intimacy is a vital aspect of a healthy romantic relationship, but many couples encounter challenges that lead to its decline. By acknowledging these common reasons and engaging in open conversations, couples can address the issues that are affecting their sexual connection.

Prioritizing emotional and physical intimacy, managing stress, trying new things, and fostering a sense of forgiveness and acceptance are crucial steps toward revitalizing a satisfying and passionate sexual relationship.

Ultimate Intimacy

There are many other barriers that keep couples from having the amazing sexual intimacy they desire. The Ultimate Intimacy Sexual Intimacy Workbook has helped MANY couples just like yourself break down the barriers and find Ultimate Intimacy in their relationship.

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