19 Nov

There is a profound connection between emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy. These two facets of human connection are not isolated from each other but rather deeply intertwined.

When emotional intimacy flourishes, so does sexual intimacy, and vice versa. In a recent poll we did, 83% of our audience stated that their marriage could use more emotional connection.

This correlates with why about 89% of men in our audience feel their wife doesn’t prioritize sexual intimacy in their relationship. When the emotional needs are not being fulfilled in the relationship, the desire for sexual intimacy is going to be low as well.

In this article, we’ll explore the correlation between these two vital elements and how nurturing one can enhance the other.

Check out this other great article titled: Emotional Intimacy and Sexual Intimacy…You Need Them Both To Thrive.

Understanding Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is the closeness and connection shared between spouses at a psychological and emotional level. It’s built on trust, vulnerability, and open communication.

In an emotionally intimate relationship, both spouses feel safe expressing their feelings, thoughts, and desires without fear of judgment or rejection.

The Strong Foundation

  1. Trust and Vulnerability: Emotional intimacy is founded upon trust. When individuals in a relationship trust one another, they can open up and be vulnerable, knowing that their spouse will support and understand them. Trust creates a safe space for emotional expression.
  2. Effective Communication: Communication is the bridge to emotional intimacy. Spouses who can express themselves, actively listen, and empathize with one another build a strong emotional connection. They understand each other’s needs and desires.
  3. Empathy and Support: Couples in an emotionally intimate relationship are attuned to each other’s emotions. They offer support and comfort during challenging times, creating a deeper bond.

The Link to Sexual Intimacy

Emotional intimacy serves as the solid ground upon which sexual intimacy can thrive. Here’s how they are interconnected:

  1. Increased Desire: Emotional intimacy can ignite desire and passion. When spouses feel emotionally connected, they often experience a stronger desire for physical closeness. The trust and vulnerability shared in emotional intimacy create a deeper longing for one another.
  2. Enhanced Communication: Open and honest communication, a cornerstone of emotional intimacy, extends into the bedroom. Couples who can discuss their desires, fantasies, and boundaries are more likely to have a fulfilling sexual relationship.
  3. Greater Satisfaction: Emotional intimacy can lead to greater sexual satisfaction. Feeling emotionally close to your spouse can intensify the pleasure and connection experienced during sexual encounters.
  4. Relief from Stress: Emotional intimacy can provide a buffer against stress and anxiety, which can be detrimental to sexual intimacy. Feeling safe and understood emotionally can help reduce sexual performance anxiety.

Going back to our survey’s with our audience, we also asked the question: Do you agree that strong emotional intimacy is 1st (before sexual intimacy)? 94% said YES! This shows that almost everyone recognizes that you have to have strong emotional intimacy before the physical intimacy can be strong. They go hand in hand.

Tips for Strengthening Emotional Intimacy

  1. Prioritize Quality Time: Spend quality time together, engage in meaningful conversations, and connect on a deeper level. This builds emotional intimacy.
  2. Express Appreciation: Regularly express appreciation and affection towards your spouse. Small gestures can go a long way in strengthening the emotional connection.
  3. Share Your Feelings: Be open about your feelings, desires, and fears. Share your inner world with your spouse, creating a deeper emotional bond.
  4. Build Trust: Trust is the bedrock of emotional intimacy. Keep your promises and maintain honesty and transparency in your relationship.
  5. Seek Professional Help: If you’re struggling with emotional intimacy or have unresolved issues, don’t hesitate to seek the guidance of a couples’ therapist or counselor.

In conclusion, the correlation between emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy is a powerful one. When couple’s work on nurturing their emotional connection, they pave the way for a richer, more satisfying sexual relationship. The trust, vulnerability, and communication that underpin emotional intimacy can make all the difference in achieving a harmonious and fulfilling partnership where both emotional and sexual needs are met.

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