Have you ever felt distant or disconnected from your spouse or bored with your marriage?
If you’ve ever thought…
“This Doesn’t Feel Like The Happily Ever After Story I Signed Up For When We Got Married”
Then you might be stuck in a relationship rut.
Maybe you feel like the only one who cares about your relationship. Maybe you are feeling unfulfilled and frustrated with the current state of your marriage. Maybe you are even feeling unseen, unheard and misunderstood by your partner.
You might be thinking…
“Fairy Tales Aren’t Real. What Was I Thinking That We Could Really Experience Happily Ever After Love? Maybe Love Stories Like That Simply Don’t Exist”
You get stuck. Next thing you know you’re thinking…
“Did I marry the wrong person? Will we ever work this out or feel close again? What happened to the Beautiful Princess or the Prince Charming I married all those years ago? What has gone wrong?”
I understand, because I’ve been there.
My name is Monica Tanner and I’ve been married to my best friend and man of my dreams for 20 years now.
But it wasn’t always that way. We’ve definitely had our challenges. For the first 10 years of our marriage, I was absolutely white-knuckling it. I was holding on for dear life and waiting for the bottom to fall out at any moment. I thought I had to be perfect at everything and if I showed any sign of weakness or distress, the life I had always wanted would crumble all around me.
I tried to look really happy on the outside, but inside, I was barely holding it all together. I couldn’t let my guard down for one moment and THAT was creating a major barrier to the kind of intimacy and connection I longed for in my marriage.
After our 3rd child was born, I had a huge breakdown, which was the beginning of a beautiful breakthrough that would become my passion and my purpose…to help couples achieve the kind of intimacy that fuels life-long love, passion, joy and happiness.
And even though I study marriage and coach couples full time now, I still have to work on my marriage intentionally every single day. I still look for ways to develop and expand my relationship skills every chance I get.
To say that I’m obsessed with intimacy, connection, happiness and what makes a marriage strong and lasting would be a huge understatement. Once I realized my passion for developing deep and abiding intimacy in my own marriage as well as helping other couples discover and embrace the power of intimacy in their relationships, I started reading, watching, listening and studying everything I could find on the subject.
After interviewing hundreds of couples (some happily married and some not so happy) and dozens of experts, authors and coaches, I’ve come to the conclusion that while every marriage is different, the happiest couples: Understand The Secrets Of Happily Ever After!But intimacy is complicated and messy and most people don’t even know where to start, especially when they are feeling disconnected and in a rut.
So I decided to make a list of my favorite colleagues, mentors and friends who are brilliant when it comes to explaining, teaching and coaching on all the different types and forms of intimacy and I asked them all one question:
Dear Marriage Expert, Assuming you actually practice in your own marriage what you teach couples to do themselves, what is the single most important contributing factor to you describing your own marriage as intimate and happy?
If you had the undivided attention of all the married couples in the world for just 20 minutes, what is the most important principle you could teach them that would lead to happiness and connection? In other words, what secret would you share to help them achieve their happily ever after love story?
Would you be willing to share your definition and thoughts about intentionally writing a love story that ends with ‘and they lived happily ever after’ with my audience?Sincerely,
“I wanted to know, not just what they teach about creating a happy marriage, but how they personally apply it to their own relationships to ensure they are writing the love story they want to be remembered for.”
(Because, let’s be honest, this scenario is true for every marriage that ever was and ever will be).
No marriage is perfect and life happens to all of us.
As I began interviewing them and hearing their answers, IT WAS LIKE I HIT THE HAPPINESS JACKPOT! What did all of their answers have in common?
You have to be intentional.
It’s that simple. TRUTH BOMB: Your marriage will never be perfect. You will always encounter challenges and new situations that you probably weren’t expecting or prepared for.So how can you ensure your connection stays strong and those challenges will bond you together rather than tear you apart?Be Intentional About…Always learning about each other, prioritizing your relationship and never stop having fun together.
It’s pretty simple, but it’s certainly not easy. In fact, it’s kind of hard for most people.
Why is it so hard, you might be thinking?
Because every single marriage is different. There’s not one playbook or instruction manual for you to follow step-by-step to create the perfect intimacy for your relationship.
And, by the way, even if there was, there is NO CAP to the amount of happiness and connection you can create. It just keeps getting deeper and sweeter the more you keep working on it.
There is a lot of really bad marriage advice out there.
There’s a ton of negative messages circulating about what marriage actually is or is not. Most of us don’t have good role models to follow.
“No Matter How Long You Have Been Married Or What Stage Your Marriage Is In, Every Single Marriage Needs Intimacy To Survive!”
How can we recognize and build real happiness and not the world’s counterfeit?
So how do we get positive, healthy and helpful information about intimacy into as many marriages as humanly possible?
My first thought was to do more live trainings, podcast everyday, tell my story to more people, get on TV somehow…and then it hit me. “What If I Joined Forces With My Favorite Marriage Experts From All Around The World And Asked Them To Talk About The Secrets To Creating A Happily Ever After Love Story?What if they would share the knowledge and experience they have gained in decades of marriage (literally hundreds of years collectively) and by coaching thousands upon thousands of couples?
AND, what if I could interview each of them and offer all of this priceless information for a very low cost to you?”It seemed like a crazy idea at first, but they all said YES!
Because they all understand that strong marriages build strong families and strong families build strong communities and strong communities make the world a better place and there is nothing we need MORE than happy marriages, families and communities right now.
So who are these amazing relationship and intimacy experts partnering with me to bring you these game-changing lessons to transform your marriage? Check them out here.