30 Jan

Men and women have distinct sexual responses. For men, the entire sexual experience can be pleasurable from start to finish. But for most women, it’s not quite the same. The climax, often considered the most pleasurable part of sex, lasts for a mere fraction of the total time. 

This fundamental discrepancy can lead to women not feeling as motivated to engage in sexual activity as frequently as their husband does.

This is not to say that women don’t enjoy sex. Most probably do, but it’s essential to understand that their pleasure is concentrated during a relatively short period, and for many women, this might not be sufficient motivation to prioritize sexual intimacy regularly.

This is something that we talk about in depth in a recent podcast episode we did titled: Could This Be A Big Reason Why Your Wife Doesn’t Crave Being Sexually Intimate As Often As You Do?

We men drive ourselves crazy wondering why our wives don’t crave sexual intimacy as much as we do! After all, most of us are good-looking, romantic, great fathers, and awesome husbands! It’s baffling how they can keep their hands off of us!

In one of our recent conversations, Amy dropped a truth bomb about one of the reasons she doesn’t crave intimacy as much as I (Nick) do. Her explanation made total sense to me, and we found a great solution. We agreed that we needed to do a podcast and share it with you!

So, if you’re a husband who can’t figure out why your wife doesn’t crave intimacy like you do, or if you’re a wife who feels the same way Amy did, you need to listen to this episode. We discuss the reasons why your wife might not crave sexual intimacy as often as you do, AND we talk about things you can do to increase your chances of enjoying more intimate moments.

Amy and I had a great discussion talking about why she thinks women in general don’t crave sexual intimacy as much as we men do which let to a long conversation which mades sense!

If something takes a lot of preparation, time and energy and only feels good for a few seconds vs something that feels good to a husband for the whole time, would that make sense why some women don’t crave being intimacy as often? 

This prompted a good discussion and Amy shared that when we are using a sexual tool such as a vibrator or vibrating ring it feels good the entire time and makes sexual intimacy much more enjoyable for her.

So many people are scared to try different things that could ultimately be a “game changer” for their marriage. We were one of these couples for many years, but after getting comfortable with using it to enhance our intimate experience together, it has been a total game changer for us!

(The great thing about a vibrating ring is that it is used together (never a replacement) and it is comfortable for him too. The flower part of the ring vibrates on the Clitoris the entire time during penetration making it so that the arousal FOR HER, is much more enjoyable. Win win!)

So, what can couples do to bridge this pleasure gap and create a more satisfying and mutually enjoyable sexual experience?

One effective solution is the use of aids, such as vibrators or rings. While the idea of incorporating a sex aid may seem unconventional, it can be a game-changer for couples looking to enhance their intimate life. It was for us! (it is important to set boundaries and to use them together and not as a replacement. Make sure to have good communication about buying and implementing toys.)

Vibrators can provide women with additional stimulation and help them experience more intense pleasure, which can lead to an increased desire for sexual intimacy. You can use them just on the outside of body too, in-between you)

It’s crucial to emphasize that the use of aids like vibrators is not about replacing your spouse, but about enhancing the overall experience and creating a more fulfilling connection.

How Vibrators Can Help

  1. Extended Pleasure: Vibrators and vibrating rings can provide women with prolonged pleasure, aligning more closely with their spouse’s experience. This can help women enjoy sex more and increase their motivation for intimate moments.
  2. Enhanced Connection: Using a vibrator or ring with your spouse can lead to a more profound connection, as it demonstrates your willingness to prioritize their pleasure. It can foster trust, communication, and emotional intimacy.
  3. Reducing Pressure: Some women may feel pressured to climax quickly during sex, which can be stressful and counterproductive. Vibrators allow for a more relaxed and enjoyable experience, removing the anxiety associated with performance.
  4. Exploration and Experimentation: Introducing aids like vibrators can also lead to exploration and experimentation in the bedroom, making your sexual encounters more exciting and varied.

Using the Ultimate Intimacy Vibrator or vibrating ring has been a game changer for our marriage and makes sexual intimacy so much more enjoyable. You can purchase this or many of our other great products in our ultimate intimacy shop.

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