We talk about sex all the time in our podcasts, articles and newsletters because sexual intimacy is not just important, but vital and essential to a happy marriage. However, there are a lot of barriers that keep couples from having the sexual intimacy (and emotional intimacy) they desire, because they do go hand in hand. Couples that have good sexual intimacy almost always have good emotional intimacy as well (and vice versa).
In this article, we are going to share the top 7 podcasts that can open your mind and help you have much better overall intimacy in your relationship.
DISCLAIMER: We recognize that not every relationship experiences what is shared in the podcasts, and each relationship is unique.
EPISODE 138. Sexpectations In Marriage.. And Why You Need To Talk About Them Together!
Sexpectations are the expectations you both have about sex in your marriage. This includes frequency of sexual intimacy, who initiates, foreplay, toys, what is ok and not ok, scheduled or spontaneous.. you get the point.
Discussing sexpectations together in your marriage is vital! How can you have better sexual intimacy (or anything else) if you don’t talk about it? Sex plays such an important role in marriage and you both need to be on the same page when it comes to sex. The more you discuss and talk about things in the bedroom, the more comfortable you are going to become, and the better the sexual intimacy will become in your marriage.
In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss what are good sexpectations, and the sexpectations they have in their marriage that work, especially since they both have different desire styles and drives. They also share specific ways to talk about your sexpectations and what you can do to have better sexual intimacy in your relationship.
EPISODE 107. Maintenance Sex…What Is It And Why You Should Be Open To It
Maintenance Sex.. What is it and why is it important. Well look at it this way. We have to do maintenance on our cars. We check the tire pressure, fluids and get regular oil changes, filters and many other things to keep the car running properly.
These are not fun things to do, and they are even expensive some times, but they are necessary to keep it functioning and running correctly. The same is with maintenance sex in marriage. Sometimes the time is not the most convenient for sex, or maybe we are not in the mood for sex, but we should consider how important it is to maintaining a happy and healthy marriage.
As there is typically a high desire spouse, and a low desire spouse in the relationship, maintenance sex means that both spouses (men and women) are maintaining healthy sexual intimacy to a level that keeps both spouses satisfied. For every couple, this could look different. For one couple it may be once a week, or a couple times a month. For another couple it might look different.
Both spouses need to have realistic expectations and discuss what this looks like in “their” relationship.
EPISODE 104. Why We Have Completely Changed Our Mindset About Scheduling Sex
For many people the concept of scheduling sex goes completely against what we are led to believe from watching the movies. In the movies, both people are ready to go at a moments notice and ALWAYS seem to be in the mood whether morning, afternoon or evening. It’s as if they have nothing better to do. Well… the movies are a fantasy and that is not what reality is for all of us people off the big screen.
In real life, couples seldom are both in the mood at the same time and sex often doesn’t happen spontaneously as life is so busy with work, kids and many other things. Also, the low desire spouse typically puts sex as the last thing on the list, and so sex never happens. Scheduling sex is a great way to make it a priority in your marriage and also has several other advantages.
Scheduling sex can be an amazing thing for several reasons and after listening to this podcast, you may just find yourself scheduling sex in your relationship for better and more frequent sexual intimacy.
EPISODE 120. Is Sex A Thermometer That Can Gauge The Temperature Of Your Marriage?
Is sex really a good indicator of how good (or bad) your marriage is? In this episode Nick and Amy talk about this and also share the poll answers we received from our audience to find out how others view this as well.
We believe sexual intimacy and overall satisfaction in marriage do go hand in hand. Couples that have good sexual intimacy where both spouses are satisfied, usually have good marriages. Couples that have infrequent sexual intimacy are much more likely to feel disconnected, and possibly end up in divorce.
There is a reason that the at the top cause of divorce is due to sexual intimacy issues (or lack of it) in the relationship.
EPISODE 152. Why It’s So Important For The Lower Desire Spouse To Initiate Sex (Once In A While)… And 12 Fun Ways To Do So!
So often in marriage it is the higher desire spouse that is ALWAYS initiating sex with the lower desire spouse. However, it is so important for the lower desire spouse to also initiate sex in the marriage to show their spouse how much they love and care about them.
In this episode, Amy (and Nick) share 12 fun ways the lower desire spouse can initiate sex with the higher desires spouse. Nick shares the reasons sexual intimacy (and the lower desires spouse initiating) is so important.
Nick and Amy also share the “connection challenge” instant download to help couples connect on a deeper level. This challenge can be found in the resource section of the Ultimate Intimacy App under “Coupons and Printable’s.” You can download the app for free HERE
If you are in a marriage where there is a high desire and low desire spouse and it’s hard to find the balance, then this episode is for you.
EPISODE 170. Do Women Have Complete Control And “Say So” When It Comes To Sexual intimacy?
In most relationships and marriages (whether done intentionally or unintentionally), women have complete control and say so when it comes to sex. They typically determine “if” a couple is going to have sex, “when” they are going to have sex, and everything related to sex in the relationship.
Many husbands are scared to initiate sex with their spouse for fear of rejection, having it cause an argument or conflict, and many other reasons. Because of this, and the fact that most women have a responsive desire style, many couples are not connecting sexually in their relationship (and often living in sexless marriages, or close to) because sex in the marriage is up to the wife.
In this podcast episode Nick and Amy discuss the reasons why this is, and how couples can work together to find a balance in their sexual intimacy and relationship where both spouses needs and desires are being met, and sex is something that both spouses have mutual respect and control over in the relationship.
EPISODE 116. Is This Toxic Emotional And Sexual Intimacy Game Being Played In Your Marriage?
We recently did a video on social media for the men titled “the reasons your wife doesn’t want to make love to you.” We have heard a lot of the women state it is because their emotional needs are not being met. In one of the comments from the video, a husband stated:
“A man’s emotional needs are linked to his wife making love to him, which she won’t do unless her emotional needs are met first, Thus the man becomes responsible for his and his wife’s emotional needs.”This was a powerful statement which caused us to do this podcast, and reflect on this in our marriage as well.
Most women want an emotional connection before having a physical connection with their husband. And for most men, they need to have the physical connection before they will feel safe enough for the emotional vulnerability and connection with their wife.
So for MANY marriages it looks like this:
The wife will withhold sexual intimacy (and sometimes use it as a weapon) as a punishment to try to get the emotional intimacy she wants from her husband.
The husband is usually upset and doesn’t meet his wife’s emotional needs because his wife won’t meet the physical needs in the relationship (because a husband needs the physical connection first).
Sound familiar? This toxic game is played in many relationships.. and in this game, no one ever wins and the marriage suffers from it, many times ending in divorce. In this episode, we discuss the games that are played and the things couples can do to get both of their needs met so they can have a fulfilling marriage.
We hope these podcast episodes can help you find the sexual fulfillment to the fullest in your marriage. Check out our amazing app to help transform your relationship in and out of the bedroom! The Ultimate Intimacy App has been downloaded by over 700,000 people and has a 4.8/5 star rating in the App Store! SO what are you waiting for?
