21 Jul

You hear us constantly talk about the importance of communication and how almost any issue can be resolved when couples are communicating.

So naturally when it comes to building a successful and fulfilling relationship, effective communication is the key. However, many couples fall into the trap of assuming that their spouse can read their minds, leading to frustration and disappointment.

In this article, we will discuss the importance of open and honest communication, specifically addressing why you should just tell your husband what you want. instead of expecting him to read your mind and decipher your thoughts.

A great podcast you may enjoy is episode 97. What Are Your Communication Styles?.. And How Knowing Your Style Can Change Your Marriage

Mind-Reading Is a Myth

Contrary to what popular culture may suggest, mind-reading is not a superpower possessed by your husband. Many women state “he should know what I need or want and I shouldn’t have to tell him.” If you want your relationship to suck, then keep convincing yourself of this.

While couples may develop an intuitive understanding over time, it is unrealistic to assume that your husband will automatically know what you want, need, or desire. Each individual has unique preferences and expectations, and the only way to bridge that gap is through effective communication.

Men really are simple. They just need to be told what their wife needs or is thinking and once they know, they can meet their needs.

Avoiding Misunderstandings and Assumptions

Expecting your husband to read your mind sets the stage for misunderstandings and assumptions. When you rely on unspoken expectations, it becomes easy for both spouses to misinterpret actions or intentions. This can create unnecessary tension and conflict within the relationship. By clearly expressing your thoughts and desires, you reduce the chances of miscommunication and ensure that your message is received accurately.

When people assume things, they are almost always wrong. Instead of assuming that he knows, tell him what you want or need.

Encouraging Emotional Intimacy

Open and honest communication fosters emotional intimacy between spouses. When you express your needs, wants, and feelings, it allows your husband to understand you on a deeper level. Sharing your thoughts can bring you closer together, promoting trust, empathy, and a sense of belonging. By actively engaging in conversations, you strengthen the emotional bond in your relationship, creating a solid foundation for a fulfilling marriage and relationship.

Empowering Your Voice

When you voice your desires to him, you assert your needs and desires, empowering your voice within the relationship. By communicating directly to your husband, you take charge of your happiness and play an active role in shaping the dynamics of your relationship.

Remember, your husband cannot fulfill your needs if he is unaware of them. Especially when your needs may change on a daily basis, or depending on what is going on in your life. Embracing open communication empowers you to express yourself authentically and encourages your husband to do the same.

Enhancing Problem-Solving Skills

When you express what you want, it opens the door for problem-solving and compromise. Sharing your desires allows you and your husband to work together to find solutions that benefit both of you. It encourages a collaborative approach to addressing issues and fosters a sense of teamwork. By engaging in open conversations, you create an environment where both of you can contribute to finding mutually satisfying solutions.

Avoiding Resentment and Frustration

Unspoken expectations can give rise to resentment and frustration. When you withhold your desires and anticipate your husband to decipher them, you set yourself up for disappointment.

Bottling up your needs can lead to feelings of neglect or being misunderstood, building a wall between you and your husband. By communicating openly, you prevent the accumulation of negative emotions and pave the way for a more harmonious and fulfilling relationship.

While it may be tempting to believe that your husband should instinctively know what you want, the truth is that effective communication is vital for any healthy relationship. Remember, a fulfilling relationship begins with good communication.

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