25 Dec

As someone who has walked the path of evolving a marriage through experience and conscious efforts, I’ve discovered vital changes that immensely improved my relationship with Amy and make sexual intimacy much more likely and often.

I understand that not every approach works universally, but implementing these strategies can notably revitalize your marriage and enhance intimacy. This article might echo similar themes from our prior discussions, but for us men, sometimes it takes a while to grasp these ideas. 😉

You may also enjoy this podcast episode: 183. Could This Be A Big Reason Why Your Wife Doesn’t Crave Being Sexually Intimate As Often As You Do?

Communication and Emotional Connection: For women, meaningful conversation is akin to what sex represents for men—it’s a vital way for them to connect emotionally. Like foreplay sets the stage for physical intimacy, good communication serves as ’emotional foreplay’ leading to deeper connections.

Sadly, many couples spend little time engaging in meaningful conversation, hindering emotional bonding. Simple actions like texting her during the day or actively listening to her when discussing her day fosters this vital emotional connection.

Prioritize Quality Time: Connecting emotionally precedes physical intimacy. If your schedules clash, it’s time to reprioritize. Dedicate quality time to your marriage. Whether it’s adjusting hobbies or cutting down on screen time, invest in moments together. Simplify schedules and activities to create space for shared experiences. Strengthening your emotional bond through shared moments will naturally lead to physical closeness.

Continuous Affection, Beyond Sexual Intentions: Men often reserve affection solely for moments of desire. However, consistent affection, not tied to sexual urges, is pivotal. Simple gestures like holding hands, offering a hug, or expressing love verbally matter. Displaying affection regularly shows genuine care, fostering a reciprocal response from your spouse.

Experiment and Revive Excitement: Sexual monotony affects both partners. Women, like men, desire new experiences and excitement in the bedroom. Encourage open conversation about fantasies and preferences. Be proactive in introducing novelty. Embracing change rekindles passion and heightens intimacy. The willingness to explore together fosters a deeper bond.

Selflessness in Intimacy: An often overlooked aspect—putting your spouse’s pleasure first during intimacy. Forget your needs momentarily; focus entirely on fulfilling your partner’s desires. This selfless approach enhances the emotional connection and ensures mutual satisfaction, strengthening the bond.

Ultimately, prioritizing your partner’s needs and fostering emotional connections form the bedrock of a thriving relationship. By implementing these strategies and embracing change, you pave the way for a fulfilling and intimate marriage.

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