17 Apr

Love, often portrayed in movies and novels as a fleeting emotion or a grand declaration, is in reality, much more than just words whispered in the dark. It’s about what you do, not just what you say.

Love is an action word, requiring continuous effort, sacrifice, and commitment. In relationships, actions speak louder than words, reinforcing the depth of one’s affection and dedication to their spouse.

Before we jump in, you may enjoy this great podcast episode titled: 165. The Reasons Couples Fall “Out” Of Love… And How Not To Let It Happen To You.

Why do so many couples fall “out” of love in marriage? We know the divorce rate is near 50% so chances are many couples that are listening to this podcast and feel they have a happy marriage could unfortunately end up in divorce.  But that doesn’t need to happen if you understand the reasons this happens and what you can do in your relationship to not let it happen to you.

In this episode Nick and Amy talk with Grant and Stephanie with Forever With Purpose about the main reasons couples fall “out” of love, and what you can do to not let it happen in your marriage.

So let’s dive into ten tangible ways individuals can demonstrate their love for their spouse through their actions.

Acts of Service: Small gestures like preparing breakfast in bed, doing household chores without being asked, or running errands on behalf of your spouse can speak volumes about your love and consideration for their well-being.

Example: Offering to take over grocery shopping so your spouse can have some time for themselves after a long day at work.

Quality Time: Invest meaningful moments with your partner by engaging in activities you both enjoy. Whether it’s going for a walk, cooking together, or simply cuddling on the couch, uninterrupted quality time fosters connection and strengthens the bond between spouses.

Example: Planning a surprise picnic in the park to spend quality time together away from the hustle and bustle of daily life.

Acts of Affection: Physical touch is a powerful way to express love and intimacy. Holding hands, giving hugs, or stealing a quick kiss throughout the day communicates warmth, comfort, and reassurance to your spouse.

Example: Leaving love notes in unexpected places, such as inside their wallet or on the bathroom mirror, to remind them of your affection.

Support and Encouragement: Be your spouse’s biggest cheerleader by supporting their dreams, aspirations, and endeavors. Offering words of encouragement during challenging times and celebrating their achievements demonstrates unwavering support and belief in their potential.

Example: Attending your spouse’s important presentations or performances to show solidarity and encouragement.

Thoughtful Gestures: Pay attention to the little things that matter to your spouse. Surprise them with their favorite treat, plan a spontaneous date night, or arrange a surprise weekend getaway to create cherished memories together.

Example: Planning a movie night featuring your spouse’s favorite films and snacks as a surprise after a long week.

Active Listening: Practice active listening by genuinely engaging in conversations with your spouse. Validate their feelings, show empathy, and be present without distractions to demonstrate your commitment to understanding and supporting them.

Example: Setting aside time each day to have meaningful conversations with your spouse about their day, thoughts, and feelings.

Respect and Appreciation: Show respect for your spouse’s opinions, choices, and boundaries. Express gratitude for their contributions to the relationship and acknowledge their efforts, no matter how small.

Example: Thanking your spouse for their hard work and dedication to the family, whether it’s through verbal appreciation or a heartfelt note.

Surprise Gestures: Keep the spark alive by surprising your spouse with unexpected gestures of love and affection. Whether it’s a spontaneous weekend getaway, a bouquet of flowers, or a romantic dinner at home, surprises add excitement and joy to the relationship.

Example: Planning a surprise date night at a restaurant your spouse has been wanting to try for a special occasion.

Shared Responsibilities: Work together as a team to navigate life’s challenges and responsibilities. Share household tasks, decision-making, and parenting duties equitably to foster mutual respect, cooperation, and harmony in the relationship.

Example: Taking turns cooking dinner or doing the dishes to lighten the load and show appreciation for each other’s efforts.

Continuous Growth and Communication: Commit to personal growth and invest in the ongoing development of your relationship. Communicate openly, honestly, and respectfully with your spouse, addressing any issues or concerns that may arise and working together to find solutions.

Example: Attending couples therapy or workshops together to strengthen communication skills and deepen emotional intimacy.

Physical Intimacy: Nurture the physical connection with your spouse through sexual intimacy. Make an effort to prioritize intimate moments together, exploring each other’s desires, and fostering mutual pleasure and satisfaction. And of course, being unselfish in the bedroom meaning put your spouses needs above your own. Focus on their pleasure.

Example: Planning a romantic evening with candlelight, soft music, and intimate conversation to set the mood for physical intimacy.

In conclusion, love is not merely a sentiment expressed through words; it’s a continuous journey of actions, gestures, and choices that reflect our commitment, compassion, and devotion to our spouse. Remember, it’s not enough to say “I love you”; we must show it through our actions every day.

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