Divorce is a difficult and emotional experience that affects many families around the world. While there are countless reasons why couples may choose to end their marriage, some are more common than others. In this article, we will discuss some of the most common reasons couples get divorced.
Infidelity
Infidelity, or cheating, is one of the most common reasons for divorce. When one spouse is unfaithful, it can cause deep emotional pain and feelings of betrayal that are difficult to overcome. While some couples may be able to work through infidelity with the help of therapy or counseling, others may choose to end their marriage.
When infidelity has happened in a relationship, it is often very hard to overcome due to the betrayal and trust issues caused.
Lack of intimacy
Intimacy is an important part of any healthy marriage, and when couples struggle to connect on a physical or emotional level, it can lead to problems in the relationship. A lack of intimacy can be caused by a variety of factors, including stress, health issues, or simply growing apart over time.
The biggest cause of lack of intimacy are distractions. Distractions could be so many things including social media, other hobbies or interests or anything that takes our mind and attention away from our spouse. Check out a great article “The Modern-Day Libido Killer”.
Communication problems
Communication is key in any relationship, and when couples struggle to communicate effectively, it can lead to a breakdown in the marriage. When partners are unable to express their feelings, needs, and desires, it can create tension and frustration that can ultimately lead to divorce. We say this all the time, but almost every issue in marriage can be resolved with good communication. If you have good communication skills, chances are your marriage will flourish.
Check out The Importance of Communication in Marriage.
Money issues
Money problems are a major source of stress for many couples, and financial issues can be a significant factor in divorce. Disagreements over spending, debt, and financial goals can cause conflict that is difficult to resolve, and financial stress can take a toll on a marriage over time.
Many of you who know our story know that money issues caused significant issues in our marriage. Thank goodness we had good communication and were able to work through things.
Differences in values and goals
When couples have different values and goals, it can create tension and conflict that may be difficult to overcome. Differences in religion, politics, and lifestyle choices can all be sources of conflict in a marriage, and when spouses are unable to find common ground, it can lead to divorce.
Growing apart
As couples age, it is common for them to grow apart and develop different interests and priorities. When partners no longer feel a connection or a sense of shared purpose, it can lead to a breakdown in the marriage that may be difficult to repair. What amazes us in talking to so many couples, it that often times they just don’t care or want to put in the work to have a good marriage.
A good relationship takes work, but so many people don’t want to work at it and just slowly grow apart until it is too late.
Domestic abuse
Domestic abuse is a serious problem that affects many marriages, and it can be a major factor in divorce. When one spouse is abusive, whether physically or emotionally, it can create an unsafe and unhealthy environment that may be impossible to repair.
We have seen this first hand with someone very close to us. If you are in a relationship with any type of emotional or physical abuse, either get the help that you need, or get out of the relationship. NO ONE SHOULD TOLERATE ABUSE OF ANY KIND.
Check out a great podcast 140. The Way You Speak To Your Spouse (And Yourself) Can Have Severe Consequences.
What couples can do to help prevent divorce
- Have good communication – Almost every issue can be resolved with good communication (and listening).
- Seek the help of counseling if needed – Sometimes a professional can help you work through things.
- Prioritize the relationship – Stop putting other things first and focus on the relationship just like when you were dating.
- Learn to compromise – Work together and compromise on things. Be unselfish.
- Show appreciation – Be grateful to your spouse and show appreciation and gratitude for each other.
- Keep the romance alive – Go on date nights, spend time together and do things to keep the relationship fun and exciting including keeping the spark alive!
- Work on personal growth – Instead of trying to change your spouse, work on yourself and making yourself a better person.
Divorce is a complex and emotional experience that is often caused by a combination of factors. While these are some of the most common reasons for divorce, every marriage is unique, and couples may choose to end their relationship for a variety of reasons. If you are experiencing difficulties in your marriage, seeking the help of a therapist or counselor may be a good first step in working through your problems and finding a solution that works for you and your spouse.
Another great tool and resource that has helped couples turn their relationship around is the Ultimate Intimacy App. It focuses on all aspects of emotional and physical intimacy and helps couples learn how to communicate, and deal with various issues. Find out why over 600,000 couples have used the app and give it such a high rating! Just click on the picture below to learn more. Oh, and best of all, it’s FREE to download.
