26 Aug

BY MIKE + CARLIE KERCHEVAL

If you think you’re a good listener, it’s important to understand fully what active listening truly is.

In your marriage and everyday life, active listening is actually quite important! How many times have you been having a conversation with your spouse and honestly had no idea what he or she even said by the end of it? More than likely this is something that we’re all guilty of, and if that’s the case, it’s time to make some immediate changes.

This year make a promise to yourself and your marriage, that your goal will be to improve active listening. 

5 Ways Active Listening Will Improve Your Marriage

Wondering how active listening will improve your marriage? These simple tips are the proof that you’ve been searching for!

1. Active listening will bring your focus back to your marriage.

We live in a world of constant distractions. From start to finish, it’s no surprise that literally everything is constantly pulling at us to distract us from our current everyday situations and life. Once you say “no” to those distractions, your active listening skills will improve as will your marriage.

2. Being an active listener will show your partner you care.

It’s not a good feeling to talk and feel like no one is listening to you. In fact, it feels downright crappy. Don’t allow your spouse to ever feel that way…and if they already do, take the steps to correct it as soon as possible.

3. Active listening will make certain that you’re connected to your spouse.

As adults, it’s hard to be on the same page. Even though you may be married, there are parts of your lives that seem to still be your own. From your work to your social life, sometimes that separation of worlds can happen. However, when you take the time to talk to your spouse and truly listen, active listening can be a great way to keep those worlds from dividing.

4. You’ll notice that more eye contact is being made when active listening is happening.

If you can’t remember the last time that you sat down and looked at your spouse in the eyes, it’s time to correct this asap. When you stop what you’re doing and truly listen to your spouse, this means that your eyes will only be focused on them.

And when that happens, connections start to happen as well. You’ll be amazed at how that flame can suddenly be sparked by just a few simple words and eye contact. Who knew that active listening could lead to bigger and better things?!

5. Active listening will provide more patience in your marriage as well

Did you know that when you stop and take the time to truly listen to what your spouse has to say, you’ll notice that your patience will also start to increase too. And isn’t patience a great thing to have in a marriage? Remember…your spouse is your equal and partner in life. What other option is there but to stop, listen, and respect them when they have something to say?

Active listening is a great way to start improving your marriage. Most marital problems are actually the result of some sort of communication, so it just makes sense that both parties involved need to make certain that their listening ears are open.

If you’re looking for a simple and quick way that you can improve your marriage almost overnight, active listening needs to be on your radar. You’ll love the feeling of being heard and your spouse will feel the same as well!

MIKE + CARLIE KERCHEVAL

Re posted and used with permission from Christian Marriage Adventure

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