03 Feb

Communication stands as the cornerstone of a healthy marriage, serving as the bridge that connects two individuals on a deeper emotional level. However, navigating the complexities of communication within a marital relationship can often be challenging, leading to various issues that, if left unaddressed, may strain the bond between a couple.

From distractions to the silent treatment and a lack of understanding, these issues can hinder effective communication, potentially impacting the overall harmony of the relationship.

Understanding Common Communication Issues


In today’s fast-paced world, distractions are ubiquitous, from incessant work emails to social media notifications. In the context of marriage, these distractions can intrude upon quality time spent together, diminishing the opportunity for meaningful conversations and bonding moments.

The Silent Treatment:

The silent treatment, characterized by one spouse withdrawing communication or ignoring the other, can create a significant communication barrier. This passive-aggressive behavior often stems from unresolved conflicts or an unwillingness to engage in constructive dialogue.

Lack of Understanding:

Differences in perspectives, backgrounds, and experiences can lead to misunderstandings between spouses. Failing to empathize or comprehend the other’s point of view may result in communication breakdowns and feelings of alienation.

Communication Styles:

Divergent communication styles—such as one spouse being more expressive while the other is reserved—can create friction. Misinterpretation of these styles may lead to feelings of neglect or misunderstanding.

Check out this great articled titled: Communication Styles And Why It Is So Important To Understand.

Also check out this fantastic podcast titled: 97. What Are Your Communication Styles?.. And How Knowing Your Style Can Change Your Marriage.

We talk often about how communication is probably the most important aspect in marriage and how couples can resolve almost any issue with open and honest communication. 
But so many couples have a hard time communicating. Not necessarily because they don’t want to communicate, but because each spouse might have a different “communication style” which is “how” they communicate (or don’t communicate). 

It is vital to know each others communication style so you can better learn how to effectively communicate with each other. 

In this episode Nick and Amy interview Denise and Oliver Marcelle about an article they wrote called “Communication Styles – What’s yours?” and dive into the different styles and how to address them in a relationship. 

Addressing Communication Issues in Marriage

Active Listening:

Practice active listening by giving undivided attention to your partner. Put away distractions, maintain eye contact, and show empathy by acknowledging their emotions and thoughts.

Open and Honest Dialogue:

Create a safe space for open and honest conversations. Encourage each other to express feelings and concerns without fear of judgment. Use “I” statements to convey thoughts without blaming or accusing the other person.

Resolving Conflicts Constructively:

When conflicts arise, address them promptly and constructively. Practice patience, compromise, and understanding. Seek resolution rather than escalating tensions.

Seeking Professional Help:

Consider seeking guidance from a marriage counselor or therapist. Professional intervention can provide tools and strategies tailored to your relationship’s needs, facilitating improved communication and conflict resolution.

Establishing Quality Time:

Set aside dedicated quality time to connect without distractions. Whether through date nights, shared hobbies, or simply engaging in meaningful conversations, nurturing the bond between a couple is crucial.

Building Empathy and Understanding:

Make an effort to understand your spouse’s perspective. Cultivate empathy by putting yourself in their shoes, recognizing their emotions, and validating their experiences.


Effective communication is a continual process that requires effort, patience, and understanding from both partners in a marriage.

By addressing distractions, resolving conflicts constructively, fostering empathy, and actively listening, couples can overcome common communication issues. Remember, it’s not about avoiding conflicts but about navigating them together, strengthening the bond between couples, and fostering a deeper, more fulfilling relationship built on open and honest communication.

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